It's understandable that you miss your ex wife and want her back. Chances are she may still have feelings for you as well. Any emotions that she displays, - even if they are negative, means that she's still emotionally attached to you and there is a chance of a reconciliation. Here's what to do.

The Five Steps To Getting You Ex Wife Back

They're not easy to do but the process is simple. Your ego will get in the way and if it's really big you may have trouble getting her back. However if you want her back strongly enough you may be willing to do whatever it takes.

1. Tell her you love her and want a second chance to prove your love for her


2. Tell her that your separation has made you appreciate how much she means to you


3. Admit that the reason for the break up was all your fault even if it wasn't


4. Apologize and ask to be forgiven


5. Explain why the reasons that led up to the break up will never happen again

You could wait for her to come to you asking to get back together but that might not happen. Instead some other guy might notice her, making it more difficult than ever to get her back. The longer you wait to tell her how you feel the harder it will be.

What If Your Ex Wife Is Hesitant To Get Back Together With You?

Whenever you can't have everything you want always have a back up plan. You might suggest a trial period where you would get back together for a few days, a week, or a few months, whatever you can negotiate. During that time you will prove to her you have changed and how much you love her. If after the trial period is over she still wants to leave, you won't try to stop her. You'll let her go with your best wishes for her happiness, and you will never talk with her about getting back together again. Chances are you've invested years together. You have memories. Perhaps you have children together. It's important for both of you to resolve your differences in a loving way or put closure to the marriage forever.

During the process of talking to her about getting back together it's important to be coming from a place of concern and love for her rather concern for your needs. If you know why the marriage ended, look at those reasons from her perspective not yours. Listen when she speaks. What is on her mind? Why is she resisting getting back together? If you want to 'sell' her on getting back together with you, you'll need to address her reasons for ending the marriage.

Your tone of voice and demeanor is also important. Be independent. Be a man. Don't be 'needy'. But at the same time be sincere when you tell her that you're willing to do anything to make your relationship better than ever because she's the most important person in your life. If she's uncertain, give her time. Reassure her that you love her and are willing to wait until her mind is clear.

If she's thinking about your offer, you might suggest meeting again for coffee or dinner or someplace quiet where both of you can talk. If she's not open to a trial period, perhaps she'll go out with you on 'dates' or on a friendship level for a while to see if she still has some feelings for you.

What If Your Ex Wife Doesn't Want You Back

You've done your best. You've done all you can do. You were loving. You never showed any anger or disappointment when she rejected your offers. You were a man. Strong but gentle. And she knows that you love her unconditionally even if she doesn't want to get to get back together with you. That's the best way to make it clear that you're sincere.

All you can do now is wait. Tell her you won't bother her anymore but she can always call if she wants to talk or needs anything. You would like to get back together with her but respect her decision. You will not talk about it anymore unless she wants to. Be pleasant. Be kind. Wish her love, health, and happiness from the bottom of your heart. Really mean it. If there's even the slightest chance that she's interested she'll let you know. On the other hand, if you get angry or upset or make your interaction with her difficult, it's unlikely that she'll be calling you anytime soon for more of the same. Anytime you display anger towards someone else you're making it clear that you love yourself more than you love them.

Remember this. You handled the situation in a loving, kind way. You were respectful of her and yourself. You were honest and sincere. You did everything right. Even if you made mistakes during your marriage, who hasn't? What's important is that you did all you could in a loving way. You can be proud of yourself. Appreciate who you are. Appreciate what a loving person you are and how important commitment is to you. Love yourself and be your own best friend. After you've had time to grieve over your loss, your big heart will welcome someone new who loves you unconditionally just the way you are.